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I used to work with a guy who said he used to have this mentality, and now he's older and childless, he deeply regrets it.



There are also a lot of people who regret having children, which causes a lot of misery too. Children are certainly a gap-filler for a lot of people, but imo there's nothing wrong with being content with other people having them, and plenty of ways to interact / benefit from them (aka "society.")


'childfree'. He only says he regrets it to make you feel better about having one.


I am skeptical of people who make such statements. If he deeply regrets it, what exactly would he expect his children would do to improve his life? It's not the children's job to save the parents from their emotional loneliness and give their life meaning. Children grow up and are their own people. If he deeply regrets how his life turned out, he would probably be unhappy even if he had children, or worse inappropriately demanding, placing his needs on the children.




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