I've heard this "ADHD could be an advantage" trope for decades. On net, I don't think it's usually the case for people with diagnosed ADHD, although I wouldn't be surprised if there's a lot of variance, especially in what I suspect is a pretty large undiagnosed population.
I was on ADHD medication for many years, and on balance, I'd probably still choose to use it if it didn't make my anxiety so unmanageable. These days I manage it with nicotine, which is an imperfect but working solution.
I find that hyperfocus has become predictable enough for me that I can benefit from it while reliably avoiding the behaviors that cause it (edit: confusing phrasing; I mean can avoid it when I don't want it). In that sense, ADHD may be a benefit to me, but I don't know if it's worth the drawbacks. But if I could open up my source code and do some tweaking, I'd fix the anxiety long before I worried about the ADHD.
You should ask your psych to look into something like Intuniv if you haven't already tried it. It seems to be a very promising medication - even if it's off label use for adult adhd - where you can even use it as an adjuvant to a low dose stimulant. I know a fair number of folks that have success tackling adhd and comorbid anxiety with certain nonstimulants.
I was on ADHD medication for many years, and on balance, I'd probably still choose to use it if it didn't make my anxiety so unmanageable. These days I manage it with nicotine, which is an imperfect but working solution.
I find that hyperfocus has become predictable enough for me that I can benefit from it while reliably avoiding the behaviors that cause it (edit: confusing phrasing; I mean can avoid it when I don't want it). In that sense, ADHD may be a benefit to me, but I don't know if it's worth the drawbacks. But if I could open up my source code and do some tweaking, I'd fix the anxiety long before I worried about the ADHD.