A service which is free from the creator's perspective (YouTube / CarPlay) will now carry a new fee imposed by the company which delivers the service (ISP / BMW) despite the intention of the creator.
Oh, "other manufacturers" you say? So you mean, the market is competitive and I have a choice? That, among the other reasons listed, is why it's nothing like net neutrality. Also, your #1 is an opinion.
A service which is free from the creator's perspective (YouTube / CarPlay) will now carry a new fee imposed by the company which delivers the service (ISP / BMW) despite the intention of the creator.