As one of the other comments makes clear, it's a matter of perspective. The ones that benefit always see it in a pretty light, regardless of whether the rest of the world absolutely hates it. If you insist for someone's words to be tailored to be lovey-dovey or the kind you'd expect from the pretty-light side, then don't read criticism because it'll always sound "invective" to you.
Thanks for making an account to explain internet comments to me. This website is generally squarely centered on the silicon valley perspective. It's not irrational to expect people to react from that viewpoint. If you want to engage in productive dialogue, it helps to tailor your communications to the audience. It's possible to do so without compromising your values.
Since you seek to genuinely help the follow and now apparently me, I would reckon you take internet comments quite seriously, so you're welcome. Naturally, this particular topic is touchy for both sides here, so it's just as irrational to expect him to dress it up without feeling what a potential respondent would feel if the original poster had an invective tone. It's hard, and I don't blame him for delivering it like that.
