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> To find out your impending spouse had signed a contract that bound them to create an ironclad prenup with you, would mark you as the most suspicious, manipulative bastard on earth.

Well, at least, unromantic and pragmatic. Me, I do work in business and science and I think it'd be irresponsible to potentially allow 50% control of my research, writings, and businesses I found/work in/develop/etc to go to someone else. Anyone that comes on to work for me needs to know that there's no chance that half my ownership share passes to someone else in the future, or that I need to take on debt or promises of a certain cash payment to retain the share.

For real life examples, look at how divorce wrecked the San Diego Padres baseball franchise - and the Moores had been married 45 years!

Community property? That's fine if no one stands to lose besides you, but I feel like it'd be personally pretty irresponsible of me to enter into a situation where divorce could ruin not just my business and life, but my staff, suppliers, clients, and people who count on me. Some people might say, "But if you have a great marriage and pick the right woman it wouldn't happen!" To that I say,

1. Everyone thinks that way and quite a few of them turn out to be mistaken.

2. I don't think my judgment is infallible, and I refuse to put other people's lives and livelihood unnecessarily at risk.

I agree it's still potentially awkward though - you need good communication about expectations early on.




The prenup - fine. The tortuous logic that brings you to creating a 2nd contract, solely to relieve you of the burden of communicating meaningfully with your potential spouse - there's where it crosses the line.




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