I've found this to be a pain when setting up a container-based environment. The easiest approach is to just to avoid it as much as possible - hopefully your cloud provider has some managed services (i.e. AWS RDS) that will handle most things for you.

Otherwise you need to separate your available container hosts into clusters: Elasticsearch cluster, Cassandra cluster, etc. and treat those differently from your machines you deploy your other apps to, which to be fair, they are different and need to be treated differently.