Thank you for this comment. As a father of 3, I know the feel of the load, but its important to note that it also needs to be a partnership to succeed - no single person can carry the load of several children alone.
I completely agree ... my wife is indeed my partner and I can't imagine life without her. Picking the right partner makes a big difference too!
WRT my site(s) ... I lost a server to hackers due to a RoR exploit (I was only running Redmine). As patio11 advises, don't use RoR unless you're willing to dedicate yourself to understanding how to keep it secure. I'm in the process of converting the content to markdown to be processed with a static code generator. I've got some old writing on CodeSnipers (Keith Casey's mid-2000s experiment) - http://codesnipers.com/?q=blog/steve-moyer
Also, your site is down...